I started studying shyness in adults in 1972. Shyness operates at so many different levels. Out of that research came the Stanford shyness clinic in 1977.
Shyness is the prison of the heart.
The level of shyness has gone up dramatically in the last decade. I think shyness is an index of social pathology rather than a pathology of the individual.
We need to do teacher training to educate them about what temperament means. Shyness is painful and you want to help a child with shyness - but the underlying temperament of being a careful, sensitive person is to be honoured, valued and respected.
Long marriages have ended in ruin over tiny and insignificant grievances that were never properly aired and instead grew into a brittle barnacle of hatred.
This is what you should know about losing someone you love. They do not travel alone. You go with them.
Shyness is just egoism out of its depth.
Saying just the right thing after a considerable, awkward pause is far less effective than saying the wrong thing with perfect timing. I'm telling you.
And I hope she does not live in a dark world. Because even the most terrible loss doesn't have to make you darker; it can make you deeper.
Let's not live like we're scared. It's such a waste to be scared.
What I never overcame is a kind of shyness.
I genuinely enjoy talking one-to-one. I have no shyness about that.
I am the son and the heir of a shyness that is criminally vulgar.
I've gotten better at not making people feel uncomfortable with my shyness.
I'm very shy so I became very outgoing to protect my shyness.
Even painfully shy and awkward people are not painfully shy or awkward when they are alone. The way to access this natural, comfortable alone-self when you are with others is by choosing to forbid yourself to wonder what "they" are thinking. Instead,...
When you say, "I need more confidence," what you're really saying is, "I need those people over there to approve of me." That is the desire to control other people and what they think. The first person who figures out how to do this owns the world.
It's not such a huge deal when this happens at a 7-Eleven. It's pretty huge, though, when you spend the entire job interview trying not to come across like a box of hair and you come across like a box of hair.
And like the old stereotype, I overcame my shyness by making my friends laugh.
There is a shyness about me, and I really need to get out more.
You know what my greatest personal stumbling block is? My shyness.
