While you can't control your experiences, you can control your explanations.
Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your LifeI can face things that are out of my control and not act out of control.
Unglued: Making Wise Choices in the Midst of Raw EmotionsWe misjudge risk if we feel we have some control over it, even if it's an illusory sense of control.
Robert Kiyosaki