In its highest form, not judging is the ultimate act of forgiveness.
A judgment with an evil design comes about when we compare a person to our pre-conceived beliefs about what is right or wrong and then condemn that person.
Your private self must become the same as your public self.
Judgments are like a snowball. They stick to you. As time rolls along, the snowball becomes a boulder and then an avalanche.
When you have nothing but love, you have everything. This means you must live as if you have nothing to hide, nothing to prove and nothing to lose.
If you first take a minute, an hour or a month to let go of feeling annoyed, frustrated or critical of the person or situation that may be driving you crazy, you set yourself up for much greater leadership and personal success.
The Paradox of Change: People can only change when they feel accepted as they are now. Dr. Arnold Beisser Pg 220
We cannot let go of the past enough to live in the present unless we are able to grieve our losses. We must deeply feel our emotional pain in order to accept that what is happening is not what we wanted. pg 155
When you are living in the present, you know what's important now for you and you act on that knowing.
You cannot do what's important now for you if your mind cannot accept what is happening in this present moment.
Each of us is the best we can be when we are fully present, focused yet relaxed, curious yet non-judgmental, committed yet flexible.
When you are present, you are not needy.
When you are authentic without an intent to harm others, you give yourself an awesome feeling which is the feeling of self-love.
There is one undeniable truth about our body: it only exists in the present moment.
...as long as you are motivated by the approval of others, you cannot know with confidence whether the decisions you are making in your life are what's right for you... pg 102
The present is what is happening when you strip away all the resentments of your past and all the worries you have about your future.
In order to live in the present, we have to learn how to feel safe even when a situation feels threatening to us.
To live in the present, you need to act or accept but never stay stuck.
When you do what's important now for you, you create a past that leaves you ready to handle the present. By default, the future is taking care of itself as you make decisions that are acceptable to you no matter what happens tomorrow.
