Make big commitments, keep them, and never offer reasons when you don't make things happen.
Commitment doesn't have conditions. A compassionate samurai follows through whether it feels good or not; average people do what they feel like doing.
As long as you allow your past to haunt you, you'll never be free to pursue your future. You won't even be able to focus on your present.
Service is providing what's wanted, not what I'd like to give.
Unless you interfere with your belief system, which is where you make most of your decisions, you will recreate the status quo.