Well I don’t know about you, but when I recall childhood pain, I don’t recall the pains of toothache, a thrashed backside, broken bones, stubbed toes, gashed knees or twisted ankles – I recall the pains of loneliness, boredom, abandonment, humiliation, rejection and fear. are the pains on which I might and, still sometimes do, dwell, and pains, almost without exception, were inflicted on me by other children and by myself.