Decide, first, to simply be.
Doing, in a life of balance, should be driven from who you have decided to be.
Happiness, satisfaction, fulfillment, joy, love... All these things work the same way. The more you search for them, the less likely you are to find them.
I think the more we fill our lives with more and more things we have to do, the less and less time we are spending on who we have to be.
