Quote from : Divergent Book

A son says to his Mother: "Mother, today I fought with my friend." His Mother says: "Why did you fight with your friend?" "Because he demanded something of me, and I would not give it to him." "Why did you not give it to him?" "Because it was mine." "My son, you now have possessions, but you do not have your friend. Which would you rather have?" "My friend." "Then give freely, trusting that you will also be given what you need.